I will explain an important key to parenting teens, that will save you from many problems and stresses.
Explaining how to parent teenagers is a difficult task from me to do due to the different situations, personalities, family cultures and values both parents and teens find themselves in.
However, there is one important universal key that can be applied to every family, personality and culture, that will guarantee safe, healthy and drama free parenting:
Attachment!
Parents building attachment with teens is needed to create trust, growth, communication and guidance.
However, many parents get confused when building "attachment" with two other very different dynamics: controlling parenting and permissive parenting.
Attachment is a balanced way of parenting that finds itself in the middle of permissive and controlling parenting.
Building attachment will allow teens to communicate and explore life in a safe and guided manner. Healthy attachment will allow space for mistakes, questions and judgement free space.
However, it won't leave the teen to make all decisions by themselves, and won't be over control them and place high and unrealistic expectations.
For more explanation and tools on knowing how to build healthy attachment, please take a look at my book called "the lighthouse, a guide to parenting teens". HERE.
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